Stop avoiding your problems and start addressing them | Oliver Burkeman for BT+
Stop Avoiding Your Problems and Start Addressing Them | Oliver Burkeman for BT+
In his insightful talk, author and former productivity enthusiast Oliver Burkeman urges us to confront the ordinary challenges of life rather than evade them. Drawing from his book, “Meditations for Mortals,” Burkeman emphasizes that the belief we should reach a point devoid of problems is fundamentally flawed. He argues that problems are not mere annoyances; they represent meaningful opportunities for growth and creativity.
Burkeman highlights the dual struggle we face: grappling with the actual issues at hand while simultaneously feeling indignant that such problems exist. This avoidance not only intensifies anxiety but also robs us of fulfilling experiences. He proposes a radical shift in perspective — to “befriend” our problems, transforming them from daunting obstacles into manageable stepping stones.
Using the imagery of “gnawing rats” to describe our anxieties, he encourages us to acknowledge and engage with these challenges. By taking small, deliberate steps towards addressing them, we can often discover that discomfort might signal positive change rather than failure.
Join Burkeman as he challenges conventional notions of success and productivity, and learn how embracing life’s inherent difficulties can lead to deeper satisfaction and meaning.
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Most of us are quietly waiting for our life’s problems to subside. We feel that after “solving” them, everything will be perfect, and we’ll achieve complete happiness.
In actuality, learning to live in the problems that come our way can make us happier, and expecting a frictionless life actually causes more strife for us. Journalist Oliver Burkeman reframes challenges as the path to a more meaningful life.
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About Oliver Burkeman:
Oliver Burkeman is a bestselling author and journalist. He is best known for Four Thousand Weeks: Time Management for Mortals (2021), a self-help book on reframing productivity for happiness. He also publishes The Imperfectionist, an email on productivity, mortality, the power of limits, and building a meaningful life in an age of bewilderment.
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I use to hate my job because I had to deal with all the hassles and interruptions Then I realized it was my job to deal with the hassles and interruptions.
The PROBLEMS in America are accelerating like never before. At this point, you can try various ways to avoid problems but few will be effective mitigating the effects of a social collapse. It's evident now, the US no longer tries to mask it's corruption, and as Americans slowly catch on (hopefully), that tyranny will turn up. With today's military grade weapons, "the people" have a slim chance reversing such corrosion. Tough times are ahead and burying your head in the sand doesn't seem optimal assuming a person wants a prosperous future.
My problem is life suck and everything suck too, that's it. I can't just quit my stupid job suddenly and ex out my girlfriend right … what to eat next morning and where to live without paying rent? Ugh super suck~
anybody who says "very, very" should be screened out from public speaking.
You really don't even need to watch this video, just follow the advice on the video's title and you're good.
I think the problem isn’t the matter of reality but mind. Reality is going in its usual or maybe unusual ways but problem is our cognitive reaction on reality. That’s why it’s reasonable to find inner, cognitive solution of the problem and only after that to test the quality of our mental solution in reality.
Not if I kms though (which I will eventually lol)
Finite Nature vs Infinite Nature:
Everything naturally occurring is Nature, which includes plants, microorganisms, humans (all lifeforms), atoms, energy, stars, planets, black holes, cancer, AIDS, space, Dreams, and Consciousness.
(Why would Nature be finite?)
Without Infinity, there is only infinite regress; E.g. String Theory: what caused the strings, where did the strings come from, what came before the strings; E.g. The Big Bang: what caused the initial singularity, what came before the initial singularity, etc. Considering "Nothingness" is an obvious fallacy, there must always be Something.
Prove Nothingness, while keeping in mind: Nothingness can only be "proven" in the absence of an observer. If described (observed) by an observer, Nothing becomes something (think hard about this). This would also connote a field of infinite Nothingness randomly formed a spec (our Universe) of somethingness – which is nonsensical.
Provisional science cannot claim authority over reality, at best it can only provide fuzzy hints. Science is a game of "let’s pretend," played with symbols and sensors. Its power lies in utility, not truth. To mistake physics/maths for reality is to worship the finger pointing at the moon.
Our cosmological sciences are akin to a microorganism residing within a human (on Earth), actively exploring the Andromeda galaxy. Our nearly insignificant signals bouncing off of fragments of Infinity – the margins for error are "astronomical".
"So far as the theories of mathematics are about reality, they are not certain; and as far as they are certain, they do not refer to reality" – Albert Einstein
Why would Nature form brains/minds to exhibit consciousness other than to experience reality; considering experiencing reality is the objective of consciousness?
It connotes conscious intent, via consciousness (Nature).
Consciousness/Experiences:
Disneyland (Reality) – Patrons (Consciousness) = Nothingness = Fallacy.
Instead, we Patrons (Nature) are the architects of our own theater called Reality.
All life exists for the sake of experiences (regardless of good/bad).
A thought experiment:
On a plain sheet of paper, draw a single dot (.) in the very center.
The paper represents infinite space. Everything beyond the boundaries of the sheet also represents endless (empty) space.
The dot represents 'The Big Bang'.
Everything humanity is aware of – exists within the dot (our currently expanding universe).
If the observers of this singular dot, zoom far enough away – the dot will cease to exist. The dot will be extinguished through expansion/evaporation – wholly consumed by an infinite void (due to cosmic scales/distances). This would prohibit existence from 'being'. (Yet here we are).
Furthermore this would connote The Big Bang occurred at random, within an infinite void of nothingness – suggesting 'somethingness from nothingness' – which is a fallacy.
Without considering potential forces being exerted upon our reality/universe (from beyond the boundaries of our observations) – is an incomplete interpretation.
Clearly the remainder of the sheet of paper cannot be an infinite void.
The expansion of our universe is accelerating. If our cosmic expansion were occurring within a void, our reality would have concluded before it began (poof). (Yet here we are).
If we are a facet of Infinity – we are Infinity. Along with everything being intimated.
Instead imagine the sheet and everything beyond – riddled with infinite dots.
Every universe is a particle, every particle is a universe.
(Infinity is self-propagating).
Thus Infinity is a superdeterministic preexisting condition.
Infinity being absolute simultaneity.
Expresses infinite probabilities – Deterministically.
Every reality.
Every life.
Is an intended narrative.
(The largest cannot exist without the smallest)
Although our universe is finite (as evidenced by expansion).
Infinity exists at a fixed maximal size, without borders/boundaries: Infinity is forever in every sense, within which infinite universes/realities are housed – each a distinct experience.
(Infinity > Multi)
Infinity accounts for every variation, including variations in thoughts.
Reality is an infinite fractal consciousness; whereby all realities, every possibility, along with every imaginable and unimaginable thing, is a fragment of said consciousness – which we refer to as Nature.
We are Nature.
We are "God" (figurative); fragmented into infinite experiences.
An Infinity without borders or constraints; with infinite energy.
We are all the same entity; existing for the sake of experiences.
Time:
A seemingly endless cadence of day/night cycles, conducted over the course of the Human epoch. Untold billions of Homo Sapiens Sapiens; generation after generation – conditioned by Nature to accept finality. The circadian rhythm, an innate mechanism, a constant reminder; consciousness an ephemeral experience, fleeting with every moment, through every exhalation. Selene a blanket of night, engulfing all into her dreamy embrace – the analog of Stella, raining rays of warmth, nourishing existence into being; beckoning the vivacity of life to stir yet again.
Day into night, night into day – a rhythm to remind us that none of Natures constructs are created without an expiry. Whether measured by 6.62607004 × 10-34 m2 kg / s; or by a Supereon, we are cascading energies, propagating our collective experiences – vainly attempting to elicit a sense of ‘self’ in hopes of staving off oblivion. Not realizing that the only allowable paradox to exist, is existence; a lucid dream conducted by the everlasting artistry of Gaia.
Time.
—
the Alchemist
-Ø1
Some live in HELL forever.
Some are heavenly bound.
He is succinctly described my therapist for the last eight years
I like to think life is a never-ending work in progress. That is to say there's always something to work on or strive towards. If you are ever so complacent, that you have nothing to work for or strive towards. My advice would be some form of introspection. I say that as someone that dealt with depression. And felt a myriad of negative emotions (example hopeless and aimless). That is one of the reasons why I stay so focused on moving ahead.
This doesn't seem to matter, like nothing he says really matters. It's basically something like anything bad you feel is actually what you're supposed to be working on or something, but then what do you just live in bad emotions forever? At what point is life good enough and we should just stop complaining? I have food, shelter, a way to clean myself, more than enough to entertain me. The only thing missing is someone to spend it all with. We have all this infernal technology, causing more problems than solutions, dividing us and isolating us, but the truth is, all we really need is someone who loves us, and that's who we are
Man is evolved into a problem solving animal and we need to believe that we are good at it or train ourselves to be good at it! Have confidence!
Thank you
Im worried that leaving my Jehovas witness congregation will kill all my social life. My life is stable right now but I worry that im lacking the social skills to rebuild a healthy environment as I dont know anyone who isn’t a JW.
BIG THINK HAS BECOME SOOO NEO-LIBERAL–YEAH I HAVE NO HEALTHCARE OR HOUSING BUT I SHOULD JUST THINK DIFFERENTLY ABOUT IT. SOOO 1984 "DONT BELIEVE YOUR EYES" JUST ATTAIN AN ALTERNATE CONSCIOUSNESS. VIZUALIZE HAVING HEALTHCARE & HOUSING. 🤬🤬🤬🤬