In this eye-opening vlog, I delve into my personal journey of quitting dating in America, a revelation sparked long before the “passport bro” trend took hold. As an Asian-American guy, I faced repetitive frustrations in the dating scene that made me question its very foundations. From being labeled “too nice” to crafting a fake female profile to test the dating algorithms, I share my candid experiences and insights. I also discuss my time as a volunteer matchmaker and how my travels to Asia shifted my perspective on cultural dynamics in dating. Join me as I unpack these moments that shaped my understanding of love and relationships, revealing the complexities of the modern dating landscape.
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Will you ever introduce your girlfriend to us? 🫣
AK you’re a great guy and I wish you all the happiness in the world ❤ Follow your heart don’t ever give up. God is in control 😊
Good for you AK that you found someone compatible to you. I have to agree that the dating culture in Ameri ca is very toxic no if and or buts about it. Do what makes you happy and listen to no one. 💯
Your lady is very beautiful AK
Very happy for both of u❤❤
12:50 Don't change that quality about yourself. Just be the nice guy to the right woman.
Why not formally introduce your girlfriend to us?
AK I am so happy to hear you have found someone, and that you both are happy. Good luck in the future. I do hope you come back to NYC to show your new lady to your parents and us. Enjoy your life because it is true, you only live once. I wish you peace, love and continued happiness.
tu sais quand on est"trop gentil"les gens voient ca comme une faiblesse alors que c'est une force,on ma fait et dis la meme chose que toi,laissons les autres parler
Jajaja accion kid hopped on the AI trend😂love it
Don't go out actively looking for a girl. Just focus on things you are wanted to that bring you joy.
If a right girl comes along, awesome! If not, you still live a happy life. Life is really short. No time to waste on things that are out of your control.
The new vlogs style is interesting
Im one of the lucky ones who grew up in nyc and able to be married with someone. I had about 50+ dates within a few years. But that was a decade ago. When those dating apps are not as predatory to make people stay single. The culture itself has changed too. People are even more superficial and unrealistic. I was in my mid 30s using the app. And just set parameters that is closer to my age. But being 5’10” also might be a bit easier. But from my experience, it’s just that if you met someone and it’s not really fit. Just have to cut loose and move on to next. But you being in another country is not a bad thing. Might worry about those who just want a green card. But still if they realize you just wanna stay in Vietnam. That can definitely filter out some for your citizenship. Hopefully you will doing well in Vietnam. Good luck.
All these comments here completely miss the point of the problems that average men in the US or Europe face. Online dating has made many women arrogant. They have thousands of likes and can pick and choose dates every day, while most men can't even get a date. There are countless examples of this. Anyone can try it themselves, register as a woman or a man with countless photos, and see the difference. It's the same in the real world. The real world isn't an alternative; it's even harder. Or did I miss the fact that women approach men? Oh no, of course men approach women and get rejected 90% of the time after the first sentence and sometimes the women even laugh at them looking down on them. And comments like "You have to get over being single" sound like you're trying to force something on someone without understanding how much Western dating has deteriorated. At the same time, women no longer care about looks, figure, or anything else; they're only looking for money and a height of 6 feet, or better yet, 6 feet or more. Go where you'll be treated best. You'll be very happy in Asia. I know from personal experience. All the best to you, AK.
These are great Ken
I love asians men. I feel like I'm not good enough for most of them or they only want to be asian women.
Oh brother, everyone get their tissues out it’s another “actionkid pity party”🙄🙄🙄
What considered nerd in North America = righteous in Asia, geek in America = virtuous in Asia. You're an Asian ethnic guy in North America, but in Asia they love Korean movies, so you become mister hot Korean actor. So in Asia you're every girl's dream if not mother in law dream too.
On a serious note it all comes down to time, work consumed a large amount of time in North America, and this proves beyond North America shore to Japan, Korea, and many emerging economically Asian countries, when the economies go up, the dating, marriage and bearing children come down. So long work hour is the enemy for dating. Hope everything goes well with you!
Thanks for sharing your valuable real-life experiences that will help younger ones.
I think it's a worldwide issue though, not just America. We just need to talk to each other more IRL.
Also, I'm actually a little concerned that you're doing videos like this because it'll attract the incel community. I am a female subscriber and some of your commentary was off-putting to me.
Also, matchmaking in New York City sucks because those are all the people that couldn't have success on the dating apps, which is already a cesspool
That is really sad what happened to you, dear Lord, I hope you find or have already found someone that generally wants you for your values and all the rest. And if you are not with anyone, take comfort in knowing God loves you and be happy and content with you.
Can't believe you couldn't find love in New York! There's so many nice and wonderful women on Roosevelt Ave in Flushing!
What are you going to do if Trump ends dual citizenship?
You know when a content creator stops listening to his/her subs and starts doing things like this, that they've gone over to the other side, and there's nothing you can say to them that will "register." All of this over a woman? This is a 38-year-old man acting like a teenager, excited about having a new girlfriend. Grown man don't act like this. AK is not a real person anymore. We've lost him. He sold his soul. Someone else owns it now. All of this can't be over a woman. This is a money move.
You're a good man but there are a lot of fakes out here not looking for true love but only games and suckers to take care of them. I've expierenced the same thing. If you've found love good for you.
Meh. Americas a big country, woth different cultures, not just NYC. Go to the more interior states and women are much more down to earth
Everything you said in this video is completely 1,000% correct ✅. Spot on. I’ve given up on women in America. I focus on me, myself, and I.
There's a big difference between someone who is genuinely kind and someone who is "nice."
"Nice" sounds manipulative or insincere.
I also think that many of us use "nice" when we have nothing else to say about a man, and that's obviously not a good thing. You can be kind and gentle while still having a personality.
You’re right. Stay there.
I’ve been following you for a very long time. Welcome to my city. I can help you learn Vietnamese and take you around the city for free. Please reply to me. Peace!
The redditors and feminists ain't gonna like this video lmaooooo
It’s taken me years to realise this.
I tried so hard to please women. It got me nowhere. They didn’t appreciate it and if anything, seemed to respect me less for doing so.
Now, being single and successful, I don’t approach women. Now, I get flirted with and approached almost on a daily basis.
My lesson: don’t chase. Let them chase you. Let them deal with possible rejection.
Women will love it.
If I go out, they ask ME.
Life on MY terms.
Believe guys, it’s works. I’d been approaching women in the wrong ways.
My life has not ever been better, more successful, more money, far less stress not having to deal with their drama and bs. I don’t ester money on expensive dinners, dates, trips, etc. If I do meet the right woman, if she exists, I will take good care of her.
Work on yourself, that’s most important.
Seriously dude!! Are you having a mental breakdown?
Very interesting topic, I am having the same issues here in Jersey. I don’t know if it’s America or it’s a different dynamic and no one has the patience anymore. Guys reaching out to me yet they don’t put much effort to get to know me or have a conversation. I’m glad you found someone perhaps you can move back with her someday.
He needs to create a new channel where he puts all these talking videos and keep this channel just for walking