In her thought-provoking TEDx talk titled “Why I Stopped Earning for Love,” Fathya Zelinda shares her personal journey of discovering the true essence of worth beyond monetary gains. Drawing on her experiences, she uncovers how societal pressures often equate financial success with self-worth and the love we receive from others. Fathya challenges this narrative by exploring the emotional toll of seeking validation through wealth, revealing her pivotal decision to redefine success on her terms. She emphasizes the importance of loving oneself and fostering authentic relationships rather than relying on external accolades. Through her engaging storytelling and heartfelt insights, Fathya inspires viewers to reflect on their own values and encourages a shift towards a more meaningful and loving approach to life. This talk serves as a powerful reminder that true fulfillment comes from within and that the journey to self-love is far more rewarding than any monetary achievement.
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Meet Fathya Aully Zelinda, speaker of “Why I Stopped Earning Love.”What if love was never something you had to earn?
For years, Fathya measured her worth through achievements, recognition, relationships, and the approval of others. Through her journey, she came to realize that love is not a reward for success nor something granted when we finally become “enough.” Instead, love is a choice—a way of living, creating, and connecting with others.
In this deeply personal talk, Fathya reflects on the lessons she learned through self-discovery, relationships, and community, and how letting go of the need for validation allowed her to lead with love—not from emptiness, but from wholeness. What if love was never something you had to earn?
For years, Fathya measured her worth through achievements, recognition, relationships, and the approval of others. Through her journey at APU, she came to realize that love is not a reward for success nor something granted when we finally become “enough.” Instead, love is a choice—a way of living, creating, and connecting with others.
In this deeply personal talk, Fathya reflects on the lessons she learned through self-discovery, relationships, and community, and how letting go of the need for validation allowed her to lead with love—not from emptiness, but from wholeness. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at https://www.ted.com/tedx
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Video “Why I stopped earning for love? | Fathya Zelinda | TEDxAPU” was uploaded on 09/28/2026 to Youtube Channel TEDx Talks