How loneliness is killing us, according to a Harvard professor | Robert Waldinger
In the video “How loneliness is killing us, according to a Harvard professor”, Robert Waldinger discusses the growing epidemic of loneliness in society. Defined as feeling less connected to others than desired, loneliness is a subjective experience with widespread impact. From young adults to older individuals, loneliness is pervasive across all age groups and demographics. Factors contributing to this epidemic include societal changes such as increased mobility and the digital revolution. Research has shown that loneliness is as dangerous to health as smoking half a pack of cigarettes a day and can lead to rapid brain decline in late life. Waldinger emphasizes the importance of investing in relationships and making personal connections with others. He suggests that lonely individuals can benefit from learning social skills and revising their assumptions about being unwanted by others. The video concludes with the message that everyone belongs, matters, and is connected, and encourages lonely individuals to find settings and activities where they feel comfortable and see what develops.
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60% of people feel disconnected. Harvard professor Robert Waldinger addresses the science behind humanity’s loneliness epidemic and suggests ways to solve it.
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Loneliness is quietly spreading across our society. Robert Waldinger, professor of psychiatry at Harvard Medical School, explores the roots of this growing epidemic.
He draws on research by experts like Julianne Holt-Lunstad, revealing the severe health impacts of loneliness, equating it to smoking half a pack of cigarettes daily. Stress, accelerated brain decline, and overall well-being suffer, but the remedy lies in our relationships—with friends, family, and even casual encounters.
Waldinger shares practical steps to combat loneliness, encouraging everyday connections with individuals like the person who delivers the mail or the cashier at the grocery store.
You belong. You matter. You’re connected.
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About Robert Waldinger:
Dr. Robert Waldinger is Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School, Director of the Center for Psychodynamic Therapy and Research at Massachusetts General Hospital, and Director of the Harvard Study of Adult Development. He is a practicing psychiatrist and psychoanalyst, he teaches Harvard medical students and psychiatry residents, and he is on the faculty of the Boston Psychoanalytic Institute. He is also a Zen priest.
Dr. Waldinger earned his bachelor’s degree from Harvard College and his MD from Harvard Medical School.
– Loneliness is absolutely an epidemic in our society, but it’s been growing for decades. Loneliness is the sense that “I am less connected to other people than I want to be.” It’s a very subjective experience, and that makes it different too from isolation. So I can deliberately isolate myself
And feel great about that, but only you can tell if you’re lonely. And the fact is you can be lonely in a crowd. You can be lonely in a marriage. You can also be very content and not lonely alone on a mountaintop. Starting in the 1950s
And going all the way through to today, we know that people have been less and less invested in other people. In some studies, as many as 60% of people will say that they feel lonely much of the time. And the lowest estimates are 30-40% of people say they feel lonely.
Young adults aged 16 to 24 are the loneliest age group, and then again, among older adults, there is an increase in loneliness, particularly as people lose friends, lose partners. But loneliness is pervasive across the world, across all age groups, all income groups, all demographics. There are so many factors that are responsible
For this loneliness epidemic. They did not just begin with the digital revolution. Loneliness was on the rise, as we know, at least from the 1950s in part because of We’ve become a much more mobile society where the networks of family and friends get disrupted as people move for jobs
And other kinds of opportunities like education. All of that is good on the one hand, but then it tears us away from the fabric of belonging that many of us are born into and spend much of our lives creating. So when television came into the American home,
There was a decline in investing in our communities. People went out less, they joined clubs less often. They went to houses of worship less often. They invited people over less often. All of that seems to contribute to our increasing disconnection and our increasing levels of loneliness.
That was made worse as the digital revolution gave us more and more screens to look at and software that was designed specifically to grab our attention, hold our attention, and therefore, keep it away from the people we care about. There’s good work by Julianne Holt-Lunstad, who is a researcher who studies loneliness,
And what she finds is that loneliness is as dangerous to our health as smoking half a pack of cigarettes a day. We think that stress is one of the main causes of physical health breakdown that comes from loneliness, but there are probably other causes as well.
And in addition, the research shows that people who are lonely in late life have more rapid brain decline. So we know that this same process of increased stress or decreased stress affects how our brains age. And many other studies show that the single choice we can make that’s most likely
To keep us on a good path of well-being is to invest in our relationships with other people. It’s not just our closest relationships that make us feel connected, it’s all kinds of relationships. It’s the person who delivers the mail. It’s the cashier who checks us out at the grocery store.
It’s all these casual encounters. All of these ways of making it a little bit more personal, do a lot to make other people feel like they belong, and they make us feel more like we belong. Many people who are lonely feel that others don’t wanna be
With them, and what we know is that lonely people can sometimes give off the message that they don’t wanna be approached because they’re afraid of others; they’re afraid of the world. And so it may be that lonely people can learn more about making gestures
And giving off signals that say, “I would like to connect,” even when they’re a little bit afraid to do so. And so they’ve actually developed forms of cognitive behavior therapy where people are taught these social skills and taught how to revise their assumptions about not being wanted by other people.
My recommendation if you’re feeling lonely and a little bit afraid is find a setting, find an activity around other people where you are comfortable and see what develops. You belong. You matter. You’re connected.
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